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Kim Hampton, after listening to conversations about the movie Selma, says that “the angry black woman has a question.”
Yes . . . James Reeb and Viola Liuzzo were in Selma and died because of it. And? Does the story always have to be about white people?
But let’s look at this on a larger scale . . . have you, my good UU friends, made so much of the Selma moment because our history—before and since—is just plain awful? (East of Midnight, January 12)
As a white ally, the Rev. Krista Taves finds motivation to persevere in the comments of Martin Luther King, Jr., about white moderates.
I don’t want African Americans in the country to keep paying the price because I’m afraid and resistant. Whenever I get tired or afraid, especially afraid of the reaction of other white people, I think about that. (And the stones shall cry, January 15)
The Rev. Dr. Victoria Weinstein, after attending a community conversation about policing and the African-American community, offers tips for making such discussions healthy and fair.
The practice of community is incredibly challenging and demanding. It can be scary, and especially for leaders. Blessings and gratitude to all those who do the work of creating community. Blessed be those who stand on the dais taking the heat, and blessed be those who show up to support or hold them accountable. If God wants anything of us, it is to come together and care about one another. Good community practice gets easier the more we do it, and makes us better at being human. (PeaceBang, January 9)Heartfelt words about Starr King
The Rev. Dr. Cynthia Landrum calls for resolution of the conflict at Starr King School for the Ministry.
This has been one of the hardest things I’ve ever written, because I know it’s controversial, it’s murky, and I have conflicting loyalties. It pains me to think that speaking up for what I think is right may cost me friendships and be professionally or personally damaging. . . . But my worship theme for this month is “integrity.” I have tried to act with integrity in speaking first to the SKSM Board and President, and now by speaking up for what I think is right. This has gone on too long, and is creating more damage as it goes on to everyone involved. It’s time to change course, to de-escalate, and if that doesn’t happen, for UUs to speak up. (Rev. Cyn, January 12)
Today, UUA President, the Rev. Peter Morales, and UUA Moderator Jim Key issued a joint statement on the Starr King controversy.
The Rev. Dan Harper posts documents related to the situation at Starr King. (Yet Another Unitarian Universalist, January 10)Love stories
Liz James shares her story of falling in love with an armed robber—and what it says about love and community and connection.
I love those moments when we are coming to understand one another over great differences, learning new norms, gently touching the places of pain. When we cannot see so we reach out into the night and find our way by touch. (Rebel with a Labelmaker, January 11)
Desmond Ravenstones wonders what UUs mean by the word “love.”
The love I grew up with was many things—and not many things. It was not sentimental. It was not overly indulgent. It was not about surface politeness.
The love I grew up with led me to see in the principles and values of Unitarian Universalist how my parents wanted me to live. And yet, when I see other UUs use the word “love,” I sometimes wonder . . . (Ravenstone’s Reflections, January 15)Children are welcome
The Rev. Sharon Wylie continues her “Church 101” series by answering questions about children in worship.
I understand that parents feel anxious about having children with them in worship. Surely they’ll be bored or misbehave; surely they’d prefer to play outside or be with the other children. And there will certainly be times when all those things are true. But in our very hectic and overscheduled world, sometimes there is value in just being together, in knowing you’re sitting with your family and that you love and care for one another. Worship is one of the places where that kind of closeness can happen. (Ministry in Steel Toe Shoes, January 11)
A commercial that makes light of children’s lack of status makes Katy Carpman gasp out loud.
As a parent and an educator, I’ve spent the majority of my adult life working with children. And yes, in US culture, children are often seen as a low priority. They’re short, can’t vote, and don’t have their own credit cards.
Thank goodness they’re loud and adorable, or they might be overlooked entirely. (Remembering Attention, January 10)
Colleen Thoele’s young son asks her, “Are you gonna die, mama?”
The question that I pretty much knew was coming but it was still a punch to the throat. . . . Because what wanted to come out of my mouth and my brain actually sent was “Nope! Never. We will be together forever always alive and never dead. Amen.”
Thankfully the answer I gave, because they are so young still and fear separation was to ask the question, “Are you worried that I will not be be here to take care of you?” He nodded through tears. I could see the anticipation of my answer scaring him. “I don’t expect to die for a very long time. I expect to take care of you for as long as you need me.” (The Family Pants, January 13)Embracing change
The Rev. Dr. Cynthia Landrum welcomes changes to ministry and congregational life.
What if this unknown future Tom Schade is pointing to, the one where individual churches may not be the model that serves liberal religion, doesn’t make ministers irrelevant, but makes us better? What if it frees us up to serve our areas of excellence and rely on the excellence of others better in the areas where we are weak? What if it means that we don’t have to be all things to our people? What if new models can emerge that make us more connected, more interdependent, where we’re using our own strengths and the strengths of others, and the result is a Unitarian Universalism less mediocre, less amateurish, and more prophetic? (The Lively Tradition, January 10)
Shawna Foster is glad to see changes in how candidates for ministry are evaluated.
The answer to an increasingly educated populace is not a more educated clergy. But a clergy that can do things that college can’t. Hence, the emphasis on practice. (Little Lower than the Angels, January 13)Arrivals and departures
Like many Unitarian Universalists, John Beckett has had a long struggle with his religious history.
Is my inner fundamentalist dead? I hear him every now and then, but he’s not inside me any more. He’s like a ghost—not an active spirit, just the psychic remains of a long traumatic experience. He appears and then fades away, getting weaker and weaker over time.
And he doesn’t interfere in my life any more. (Under the Ancient Oaks, January 13)
The Rev. Amy Zucker Morgenstern wishes that UUs were better about wishing well those who choose to leave Unitarian Universalism.
Would we be able to let them go to their new spiritual home without criticizing it—“Christianity is just a myth—I prefer reality”? Would we insist on rewriting their life story—“You must not have understood science to begin with”? Would we proclaim our superiority with statements such as “Well, some people need a crutch”. . . ?
“Not all those who wander are lost,” we seekers like to say. And not all who choose a different path than ours are heading in the wrong direction. (Sermons in Stones, January 8)Lift up your hearts
If the world’s news is getting you down, go and read the Rev. Phil Lund’s poem, “Lauds.” (Phil on the Prairie, January 14)
Unitarian Universalism in the film Selma
The depiction of the death of UU minister the Rev. James Reeb in the newly released film Selma is included among the many inaccuracies a reviewer from Selma, Alabama, notes. Reeb did not die immediately after being attacked outside of a diner, as the film depicts. (Selma Times-Journal - 1.14.15)
Other stories about the film include:
“Selma official: ‘The movie Selma is a combination of historical inaccuracies,’” (al.com - 1.13.15)
“Selma evokes Casper memories” (Casper Journal - 1.12.14)
“50 years later, Selma still strikes a chord” (The Blade - 1.10.15)
Unitarian Universalist Association becomes landlord
The Unitarian Universalist Association officially became owner of its new headquarters building at 24 Farnsworth Street in Boston. The Association paid $25.5 million for the six-story brick building, purchased from the Davis Cos., a real estate investment company. (The Boston Globe - 1.14.15)
More coverage of the sale:
“Unitarians close on $25M purchase of Seaport District headquarters” (Boston Business Journal - 1.12.15)
The faces of Florida marriage equality
Many couples have waited decades to have their relationships recognized in their home state. The Rev. Kathy Schmitz of First Unitarian Church in Orlando, Fla., felt a celebration was necessary for the thirteen couples married at the church last Saturday. (Orlando Sentinel - 1.10.15)
Nearly twenty Unitarian Universalist religious professionals joined clergy and other people of faith in a letter to the Georgia legislature opposing recent so-called religious freedom legislation. They see these bills as overreaching the bounds of religious freedom by using it to harm or exclude some individuals or groups. (GA Voice - 1.13.15)
Finding meaning and community without God
The father of two young children finds a religion worth considering in his local Unitarian Universalist church. While he and his wife aren’t necessarily religious, Calvin Hennick was initially drawn in by the Rev. Hank Pierce’s Twitter feed and assurances that he did not need a belief in God for his family to be welcome at First Parish in Milton, Mass. (Yahoo Parenting - 1.12.15)
One year after a chemical spill in the Elk River created a water crisis in West Virginia, members of the Unitarian Universalist Congregation of Charleston, W. Va., have distributed more than $21,000 to local organizations that work to support clean water. The congregation raised $24,000 from donors nationwide. (The Charleston Gazette 1.3.15)
See also “West Virginia chemical spill reaches one-year anniversary” (The Register-Herald 1.9.15) and “One Year Later: Events Held to Remember Elk River Chemical Spill” (West Virginia Public Broadcasting 1.8.15).Sexuality, marriage equality, and gender justice
The Rev. Meg Riley, minister of the Church of the Larger Fellowship, talks about her concerns about the safety of her gender-nonconforming child when using public facilities like restrooms and how this spurred her to raise funds to make a restroom at her child’s school welcoming to all genders. (The Seattle Times 1.4.15)
The Rev. Dee Graham, minister of Manatee Unitarian Universalist Fellowship in Bradenton, Fla., was on hand at City Hall to offer religious wedding services to any same-sex couple who wished to have one now that marriage equality has come to Florida. (mysuncoast.com 1.4.15)
An article about sexuality among senior citizens quotes Melanie Davis, a UUA program associate for the Our Whole Lives sexuality education curricula, on the difficulties of maintaining sexually healthy relationships in one’s later years. The story notes that a new OWL curriculum for senior citizens is in development. (RHRealityCheck.org 12.17.14)
The Rev. Debra Haffner, a Unitarian Universalist minister, and Marie Alford-Harkey, both of the Religious Institute, are featured in The Advocate’s list of “The Religious People Who Give Us Hope for Religion” for their work on lifting up the role of bisexual people in religious communities. (The Advocate 12.24.14)Congregation expresses grief over victims of police violence
Members of the Unitarian Universalists of Southern Delaware braved cold weather to hold a public healing circle and peaceful march in solidarity with people in Ferguson, Mo., Staten Island, N.Y., and Cleveland, Ohio, and express their hope for an end to racism. (CapeGazette.com 1.4.15)UUA headquarters purchase completed; branding was fun
The UUA completed the purchase of its 24 Farnsworth Street headquarters building, where it has been leasing three floors, on January 9. The UUA purchased the six-story building for $25.5 million. (Boston Business Journal 1.12.15)
The head of branding agency Quicksilver Foundry, Will Novy-Hildesley, discusses the pleasure he got from his work with fifty Unitarian Universalists and UUA staff in the early stages of their rebranding efforts and how this led to the memorable slogan: “Wanted: Brave Souls.” (Portland Monthly 1.5.15)
Patrick Murfin writes a poetic response to this week’s violence in Paris—and to critical voices.
I must, you say, if I love justice,
hold every man, woman, or child
who kneels five times a day
to equal account for these murders
and make them all pay
thousands of times over
with their own blood.
I see and condemn a sliver of fanatics,
you see whole races equally guilty. (Heretic, Rebel, a Thing to Flout, January 8)
The Rev. James Ford fears that the word “fundamentalism” has become almost useless.
Fundamentalism is not conservativism. Fundamentalism is not being a jerk.
Fundamentalism is a religious stance in reaction to modernity. It abhors modernity, and freedom of thought, and freedom of expression. It particularly targets women and sexual minorities and anyone who supports them. It calls us to an imaginary past where people all knew their place. (Monkey Mind, January 7)Hot topics
Liz James sparks a lively Facebook conversation about the Fellowship Movement. (Facebook, January 6)
That Facebook conversation led to James’ post about the language wars in UUism—wars she wants to stop fighting.
I want to learn to listen to your story until my soul overflows with your memories. I want to tell you my story with gentle truth and unequivocal strength. I want language to be something we create together, understanding that words are made of definitions, yes, but also of shared experience. I want to learn the meaning of words at least in part the way children do—by seeing the pattern in the moments. These are the words we speak during heartbreak. These are the words for joy. (Free Range Seminarian, January 6)
Our liturgy is literally the work of the people, and great worship is central to great religious communities. It’s time. It’s time to include more recent music, it’s time to update our readings, it’s time to move into the 21st-century in our technology.
It’s time. (A Free Faith, December 30 and January 4)
This week the Church of the Larger Fellowship’s online show, The VUU, tackled the topic of connections between UU and UCC congregations, talking with the Rev. Robin Bartlett and the Rev. Adam Tierney Eliot.The future of ministry
The Rev. Tom Schade posts this for debate: “Resolved that the material and professional interests of the UU clergy hamper the development of new ecclesiological models more suitable for UU evangelism.”
If we step back, we don’t know what “church” is now; we don’t know what religious community looks like that isn’t inward, and self-protective, and an escape; we don’t know what “ministry” does beyond tend to those communities. But the material interests of the clergy drives us inexorably toward the maintenance of insular and inward looking religious communities when we know in our bones that we need to be expansive, outward looking, and boundary-crossing. (The Lively Tradition, January 7)
As a millennial minister, the Rev. Robin Tanner has concerns for what the future holds for ministers, and the movements they lead.
And so I see community organizers not being able to pay rent and ministers not being able to pay for childcare, I worry as these economic trends deepen who will lead our revolutions? What will happen when no one is paying the prophet? (Piedmont Preacher, January 8)
The Rev. Dawn Cooley has a suggestion for her colleagues.
Only the Southern region has gained in both adult and children participation over the last 10 years.
In the mid-19th century, Unitarian Horace Greeley is said to have declared “Go west, young man, go west.” Updated for today, let me say “Go south, dear colleague, go south!” (Speaking of, January 8)
The Rev. Jake Morrill collected haikus from his colleagues about their hopes for ministry in 2015.
Thirsty? Take a drink!
Then we irrigate the desert
From our source of love. . . .
Across the prairie
A Prophetic Sisterhood
We will be reborn. . . .
Adapt, ye leaders
from your center bend that arc
justice needs us now (Quest for Meaning, January 4)
The Rev. Sharon Wylie begins a series called “Church 101.” One post answered the question of what to say—and what not to say—to the minister after the service.
What not to say? No interaction with the minister in the receiving line should take longer than 30 seconds (AT MOST). It’s just not the place for a meaningful conversation. Perhaps if no one is behind you, you might linger for a few minutes, but keep in mind that the minister may have other people she needs to speak with or things she needs to do after services. And please, please don’t tell the minister anything you expect him to remember. He’s just spoken with dozens of other people and will likely not remember your request to call or visit or email the link to the thing. (Ministry in Steel Toe Shoes, December 28)
A second post deals with a the two-common occurrence—when something bad happens to a newcomer on their first visit to a congregation.
If something happened on your visit that is off-putting enough that you are considering not returning, then let the minister know. We want to know. We won’t always be able to address it, and it may even be that thing that upset you is a good sign that the religious community you visited isn’t the right fit for you, but the minister can help you assess that. (Ministry in Steel Toe Shoes, January 4)Happy Anniversary, PeaceBang!
This week we wish a happy anniversary to the Rev. Dr. Victoria Weinstein, who recently celebrated ten years of blogging as PeaceBang. (PeaceBang, December 28) “PeaceBang” celebrated by hosting a Google Hangout about social media—looking backward, and looking forward.